|Preventing / Minimizing Trauma
In the Childbearing Year
Here are some things you can do to help prevent and/or minimize trauma in the childbearing year:
- Build your emotional resilience
- Find and address limiting, inaccurate beliefs (EFT can be very helpful with this)
- Seek out support from individuals (doula, therapist, friends & family), or support groups (online
- Reduce your stress level where possible
- Find healthful ways to manage/alleviate unavoidable tension
- Identify, validate and strengthen your healthy coping mechanisms (meditation, deep breaths,
humor, mindfulness, faith, tears, talking it out, hugging a tree, etc.)
- Learn new coping techniques and practices, to augment your existing tools for maintaining or
regaining your balance when adversity or challenges occur
- Cultivate emotional flexibility
- Make time to do things that bring you joy
- Take care of your health (eat well, exercise, get adequate rest, etc.)
- Maintain healthy relationships; release or reduce those that are draining
- Have realistic expectations
- Learn about normal pregnancy, labor, birth and postpartum (and remember that variations of
normal are common and not necessarily a reason for concern)
- Investigate your options, even for things you don't believe will be necessary
- Choose providers/locations carefully: "If you want spaghetti, don't go to a burger joint"
- Discuss your preferences with care providers, partner, family members, etc.
- Ask questions; don't forget to listen to your intuition for guidance and answers
- Be prepared for unwished-for surprises; some things are simply beyond our ability to control, no
matter how well we prepare and regardless of doing "everything right" to avoid it
- Release perfectionism, negativity; optimism is helpful, as is ability to accept "next best thing"
compromises when necessary (disappointment is still very reasonable in that case)
- Hire a doula for birth and/or postpartum. Research shows that women and families benefit immensely
from continuous labor support, and from knowledgeable postpartum support.
- Increase your understanding/awareness of what you're feeling and why. This includes learning to be
aware of things that "trigger" you, or activate memories of your own woundings. Once you've
identified them, do what you can to reduce your vulnerability to triggers. EFT can be a very useful tool
to help you lower the "emotional charge" on the things that trigger you.
- Be willing to acknowledge and express your feelings, even if only to yourself
- Learn to recognize when you are doing your best in any particular moment
- Challenge your perspective - there are often other, equally accurate ways to see things
- If you experience trauma, allow yourself to feel what you feel and to be aware of sensations in your
body too (may help you to avoid dissociating, freezing, going "out of body")
- Notice without judging. Feelings are neither good nor bad-- they just are.
- If you do experience trauma, shaking, crying, trembling, numbness, anger, overwhelm, and fear (and
other emotional responses) are normal. Allow yourself/others to express them without repressing or
attempting to eliminate these physical and emotional reactions. Some experts believe this can help
you to move through/clear the experience so you're less likely to suffer long-term negative effects.
- Learn EFT and teach it to your partner, doula, labor support team, birth team, etc. EFT may help to
lower your risk of trauma, and it's a very powerful first aid tool if you do experience a traumatic event.
|EILEEN SULLIVAN, CERTIFIED EFT PRACTITIONER (EFTCERT-I) EMAIL: AREYOUTAPPING (AT) YAHOO (DOT) COM (704) 905-4665
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your use of EFT. Eileen Sullivan is not a licensed health professional. She offers EFT as a certified EFT practitioner, ordained interfaith minister, and certified holistic doula. Where appropriate, please consult your healthcare practitioners regarding your
use of EFT. It is VITAL to note that you should not stop taking any prescribed medications, nor alter your dosage, without the advice of the prescribing physician.
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